ADAT BALU NGAU NGAMBI ENTEBALU

ADAT TEBALU  (WIDOW/WIDOWER FEES)

 

In accordance with custom, after a person’s death, his or her widow or widower is known as balu. As required by customary adat all widows and widowers must show respect to the relatives of their deceased’s spouse by paying a fee (tebalu) not earlier than six months after the spouse’s death. Only after this fee is paid are they permitted to remarry.

The amount paid to the deceased’s relatives depends on the deceased’s status as follows:

 

1. If the deceased was a Great War leader (tau serang), the fee in his honour will be sigi menaga, $16.00.

 

2. If the deceased was a minor war leader (tau kayau), the fee in his honour will be lima belas igi jabir, $ 15.00.

 

3. If the deceased was a leading warrior (kepala manok sabong), the fee in his honour will be empat belas igi jabir, $ 14.00.

 

4. If the deceased was an ordinary warrior (manor sabong), the fee in his honour will be dua belas igi jabir, $12.00,

 

5. If the deceased was a great noble chieftain (kepala tuai menoa), the fee in his honour will be lima belas igi jabir, $ 15.00.

 

6. If the deceased was a famous Penghulu of aristocratic family, the fee in his honour will be empat belas igi jabir, $ 14.00.

 

7. If the deceased was a wealthy aristocrat, i.e. a man who never failed to get more than enough padi each year as well as being successful in his other undertakings, the fee in his honour will be empat belas igi jabir, $14.00.

 

8. If the deceased was an ordinary Penghulu, the fee in his honour will be tiga belas igi jabir, $ 13.00.

 

9. If the deceased was a very famous Tuai Rumah, i.e. one who has done good works for his followers and the people in his district in general, the fee in his honour will be tiga belas igi jabir, $ 13.00.

 

10. If the deceased was only an ordinary Tuai Rumah, the fee in his honour will be either sabelas or dua belas igi jabir, $ 11.00 or $ 12.00.

 

11. All male aristocrats are honored with a fee of sapuloh igi jabir, $10.00,

 

12. The tebalu fee of ordinary people should not exceed sambilan igi jabir, $9.00 (depending upon the important work he has done during his life­time). If he did nothing important, he will be honored with a lesser amount of tebalu fee.

 

13. The tebalu fee of people of low status should not exceed enam igi jabir, $6.00.

 

14. If the deceased was the wife of a great war leader (bini orang tau serang) and, at the same time she was an outstanding weaver (indu takar, indu gear) of the finest quality of blankets (pua kumbu), the fee in her honour is sapuloh igi jabir, $10.00. If she is not a weaver, her tebalu fee is sambi­lan igi jabir, $9.00.

 

15. If the deceased was extraordinarily clever at weaving blankets (pua kumbu) and is known as indu sikat, indu kebat, the tebalu fee in her honour is sambilan igi jabir, $9.00.

 

16. If the deceased was a good hostess to visitors (indu temuai, indu lawai), the tebalu fee in her honour is sambilan igi jabir, $9.00.

 

17. If the deceased was diligent in preparing food for visitors who came to her family bilek, (indu asi, indu ai), her tebalu fee is from lapan to sambilan igi jabir, $8.00 to $9.00, respectively.

 

18. If the deceased was always alert in looking for vegetables for those who visit her family (indu tubu, indu paku), her tebalu fee is from tujoh to lapan igi jabir, $7.00 to $8.00.

 

19. All deceased women of aristocratic families are honored with a tebalu fee of not less than tujoh igi jabir, $7.00.

 

20. The tebalu fee for a woman of low status shall not exceed enam igi jabir, $6.00.

 

WIDOW/WIDOWER RULES AND FINES

  • If a widow and a widower marry each other before they have compen­sated their respective former spouse’s relatives in a ngambi tebalu ceremony, they will be accused by the latter of committing berangkat2 tulang, eloping marriage. This is regarded as a grievous offence for which the widower is fined tujoh igi jabir, $7.00 and the widow sigi alas ngerang, $5.00. In addition, they are required by the Tuai Rumah to produce a pig, a knife and an iron adze.
  • If a widow and a widower have sexual intercourse, they are accused of committing a butang antu offence, and are fined sigi alas muda, $4.00 each.
  • If a widow or a widower has sexual intercourse with another person, he or she is accused of committing a ngemulu antu offence, and is fined sigi alas muda, $4.00 each.
  • There are two kinds of tebalu fees, which the widow or the widower may be required to pay; one is called tebalu mata, “unripe tebalu” and the other is tebalu mansau, or “ripe tebalu9”. The former is paid at the expiration of six months following the death of the spouse and its payment enables the widow or widower to remarry freely. The latter is a vow made by the widow or widower not to remarry before he or she has built a tomb hut for the deceased during a Gawai Antu festival. If this vow is broken, the offender and his partner will be fined according to the type of offence they have committed, i.e. adultery or elopement.

Source: http://gnmawar.wordpress.com/adat-iban/part-1-iban-adat-law-and-custom/

 

One thought on “ADAT BALU NGAU NGAMBI ENTEBALU

  1. uwa1971 Post author

    Adat Muai Tebalu
    Tebalu MataTebalu Mata

    Nyadi pemesai adat tebalu enda sebaka. Kebuah pia, laban nitih ka gaia pengawa
    enggau pendiau urang ke diambi tebalu nya leboh iya agi idup.

    Enti iya ke balu nya bisi buya bebuti betundi enggau urang sekumbang iya ke balu
    nya, iya tau kena tungu kaban belayan ari urang ke mati nya nitih ka adat Tunggu
    Tebalu. Tang enti iya semina bisi bengepan, ngena pekayan ke manah leboh agi ke
    agi balu, ari nya leboh urang ngambi tebalu, iya dikupas urang enda bekuku, enda
    bebulu – reti nya semua benda ke dipinta urang ti ngupas iya nya, diambi urang
    magang.

    Enti urang ke ngambi tebalu nya nadai sangka ka iya bisi beleman, bisi bemacham
    enggau urang sekumbang ke balu, tebalu iya diambi urang nitih ke adat ke patut,
    reti nya benda ke dipinta urang nya enda diambi urang abis. Sekeda dipulai ka
    urang ngagai iya, kena ngaul iya mengkang diri sebilik.

    Pemesai Adat Tebalu
    Pemesai Adat Tebalu enda sebaka. Enti urang ke mati nya, urang tau serang, tau
    pandang, pemesai adat tebalu iya 16 igi jabir. Enti iya tau kayau, tau mulau,
    tebalu iya 15 igi jabir.

    Enti iya manok sabong, manok pukong leboh urang ke ngayau kelia, tebalu iya 14
    igi jabir.

    Enti urang nya manok tansang, manok gelanggang, tang iya nadai dengah, tebalu
    iya 13 igi jabir.

    Udah nya tebalu urang bukai nitih ka gaia pendiau enggau pengawa iya diau di
    menoa, lalu nitih ka penuai umor. Tang naka pengemit tebalu lelaki, iya nya sigi
    Panding.

    Tebalu Mansau

    Nyadi reti Tebalu Mansau, urang ke balu nya diambi tebalu leboh maia iya merantu
    laki tauka bini ke udah nadai. Nya alai maia urang ngupas urang ke ngena Tebalau
    Mansau nya, kejang urang deka nganjong Buloh, pagi udah nyadi Gawai Antu.

    Nyadi pasal urang ke diambi Tebalu Mata nya tadi, taja iya udah kena kupas, tang
    nya ukai ngasoh iya enda tau mela urang ke udah mati nya enggau papan enggau
    rugan.

    Tebalu Indu
    Tebalu urang ke indu mega sama jalai enggau tebalu urang ke lelaki. Reti nya,
    enti urang nya indu takar, indu gar, tebalu iya besai ari enggi indu bukai.
    Nangkan ka nya tebalu indu ke tau muntang, tau nengkebang (urang ke nemu nenun).
    Udah nya ditangkan ka tebalu indu asi, indu ai (reti nya indu ke empu bilik,
    empu ruai ke selalu endor orang begelumu, endor orang begempuru).

    Udah nya baru ditangkan ka tebalu indu paku, indu tebu, indu temuai, indu lawai
    (reti nya indu ke teleba alai urang nemuai, teleba alai urang datai).

    http://jos010.blogspot.com/2006/12/adat-muai-tebalu_24.html

    Reply

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